Tuesday, October 30, 2012

View from a Truck

Last week I took the opportunity to ride along with my husband. In our BC [before children] era I used to go with him on the truck fairly often. Out of sheer boredom, actually- there is only so much housekeeping that needs done with 2 adults in a house. After the children came along, it wasn't worth the hassle of lining up sitters and the like, but I missed spending the time with him and the inside view of his job. Now we have reached the stage where I have the freedom to ride along again.

Last week's run took us through mile after mile of this kind of scenery-
a Peterbilt hood and endless stretches of road.
Since I have no desire to learn how to drive one of these rigs -that would be a disaster! I can't back a trailer to save my life! -a trip consists of lots of sitting. Lots and lots. Occasionally some interesting scenery. Some conversation, crocheting, and a little napping in the bunk. The same stuff you get on a really long car trip. It never fails to amuse me when anyone asks to take a peek inside the bunk and says something like "Wow! I've never been inside one of these things before!", like a semi is some kind of magical theme park or something. It's pretty boring stuff, folks. Oh, there are some fancy show trucks out there -with all the trappings of a motor home, but we make our living off of plain working man trucks. There's nothing to see back there- a bed and a couple cupboard.

Sometimes you get to go through places like this -for a change of pace.
Since it wasn't rush hour, my hubby humored me by going through downtown Chicago, just for the novelty of it. Truth be told, watching him back into those narrow, muddy farm lanes in obscure locations is more exciting. [romantic?] lol
 
Sometimes you get to stop at places like this-
where you can pump gas [diesel, to be exact] from 2 pumps at the same time. If you're not familiar with trucks, they have a tank on either side and it costs in excess of $500 to fuel up. If you're fortunate, you might get 6mpg and that amount will last you 2 or 3 days.
You gotta make your stops count, so you get to use the truck stop restroom in whatever degree of cleanliness it happens to be in at the moment... and you get to eat whatever brand of food they happen to have. When you're in a car, you have choices at every exit; not so with a semi- you have to eat whatever they have where there is truck parking. It's not all bad though- we had some really good breakfast paninis at this place!
 
Here is my list of 10 Things I Learned in the Seat of  a Truck-
1. I'm proud of my husband. Greasy-collar workers are professionals, too.
2. I would hate his job!    
3. Many things can happen on the road -this is why he's often late getting home.
4. It's not as easy as he makes it look.
5. 80,000 # is a LOT of weight. This is why trucks slow down going up hill. Also why the same truck picks up speed going down the other side. It is why you should never, ever pull right in front of  a moving semi.
6. It takes a lot of patience to drive truck. Other vehicles do all manner of obnoxious, irritating, and dangerous things around him all day, every day. He gets "cut off" numerous time a day, people constantly pull directly in front of him with no thought of their safety -or his. There are also traffic jams, and waiting to get loaded... This would explain why he sometimes comes home stressed & grouchy.
7. Some people can read a map and drive at the same time. I am not one of them. It makes me nervous when other people do it. It also makes me nervous when all but 6" of the hood of that car in front of us in a traffic jam disappears, but I have learned this does not mean we have run over the back end of the car.   
8. Think twice before you do something private in your car. You'd be amazed what can be seen from the higher vantage point of a truck. Ditto for keeping your clothes arranged where they belong. Not all truck drivers are lonely, sex-crazed creatures, interested in "the goods".
9. The reason truck drivers flash their trailer lights like that after passing another truck is because they're saying "thank you for letting me over". There is a whole other language out there. Road rage addicts should take lessons from the professionals.
10. If you're married to a truck driver, it's a good idea to ride along periodically to get some perspective.

I'm really glad I went with R last week (it's good to see the places that are just locations/names on the paperwork), but I think I have enough perspective to last me for a little while again.
They say "if you have it, a truck brought it". When was the last time you thanked a truck driver?

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Tournament Mom

Saturday was an 'epic' day. We had a son playing in a volleyball tournament for the 1st time. To raise money for a good cause.
I'm not a sports fan, but this is fascinating stuff. When "your" team is the youngest team competing, as well as the "newbies" to the tournament world and have not played together as a team before, it's edge-of-the-seat suspense. I wasn't screaming like a 16-yr old, but I was cheering -in a loud, dignified sort of way, of course. (I tried not to embarrass him. However, I believe I was the only mom snapping pictures. The cross my children have to bear.) If we're going to enter the competitive sports world, I'm glad it's volleyball- a game I at least understand.
While I enjoyed watching immensely, I would never have wanted to play! I was never athletic and was mighty relieved when I reached the age where participation in sports was no longer mandatory. In games of this intensity I would be the player cowering with my hands over my head when tall people, like my son, spike the ball! Oh wait, no I wouldn't. I would be the player no one ever ask to play on their team!  
 
This team had to work hard, but they made it into the play-offs.
You go, guys!
That's my boy in the #5!!
 
On the other hand, this is a new phase for us. I fear this local tournament will open the door for my young man to travel to more tournaments. Umm... I want him to make new friends and broaden his horizons, but he's way too young to find his way to far distant states and back without his momma along, right? Help! I need a scissors! Snip those apron strings quick!  

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

A's 13th Birthday

The youngest member of our household had a birthday a week ago. We hatched the plan for the birthday party almost a year ago. 13 is a special number- finally a teen- so it called for a little extra hoopla.

The Setting/Ambiance
 
The Place Settings
(Yes, the young Miss is "into" zebra print.)
 
The Guests (not pictured- their moms)
Classmates. For 2 months they are all the same age.
 
The Action - Fondue!
Course #1- cheese fondue with tortilla chips, herbed bread cubes & steamed veggies.
Course #2- broth with mushrooms, steamed potatoes, chicken & steak.
Course #3- chocolate with assorted fruit, angel food cake & marshmallows. Also tea.
 
If you've never had J's Flaming Turtle Chocolate Fondue, take my word for it- it is "to die for"!!! 
 
A. & I had had fondue meals before, but I believe it was a new experience for the rest of the guests.
We ended the evening around a campfire -with the moms sharing some thoughts on Beauty with our daughters. These beautiful butterflies emerging from their cocoons.
Yes, it was a successful, fun evening from start to finish.  

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Boys vs. Girls

I grew up in a family of all boys. There are advantages & disadvantages to being the only girl. But that's a post for a different day.

Before I had any children, I shocked my in-laws by making the statement that if I had to choose between having all boys or all girls, I would choose all boys hand-down every time. (Them with a household dominated by girls.)
Now don't get me wrong, I am glad the Lord saw fit to send 1 daughter my way, but I still think boys are easier than girls. Ok, it's probably just because I don't know how to deal with all the drama of having multiple females under the same roof. (Certain people might say I make enough drama of my own. haha)

But one thing I'm discovering as a mom of 2 teen sons and a 40-something husband- there is a certain amount of drama with boys, too. Maybe a better way of saying it is that there is an constant undercurrent of power struggle going on. It doesn't involve the females in the household and I don't think there's anything we can do about it.
These 2 songs placed back-to-back "crack me up". Puts words to the drama we've got going here...

When You Are Eighteen  
When you are eighteen, You're a man who is ready,
Who is strong and who's steady, You know what I mean?
When you are eighteen, Then you should be respected,
And you don't need protected, When you are eighteen.

When you are eighteen, You are braver and bolder
Than that crowd who are older, You know what I mean?
'Cos when you are eighteen, With all those years to prepare you,
There's nothing can scare you, When you are eighteen.

I'm ready to travel, To follow my star
To the places I've been dreaming of.
I'm ready for living; I'm ready for life
And I know that I'm ready for love…
 
But when you are eighteen They say "Love's complicated
And so over-rated", You know what I mean?
When you are eighteen, They say "Wait, and don't worry",
And "Hey! What's your hurry? 'Cos you're only eighteen".

I'm ready to travel, To follow my star
To the places I've been dreaming of.
I'm ready for living; I'm ready for life
And I know that I'm ready for love…

When you are eighteen, With the world all around you,
It can sometimes astound you, You know what I mean?
Just how little they know, ha, All those cowboys and chancers,
I've got more of the answers, and I'm only eighteen!

You can listen to it here.
I couldn't find a video of the 2nd one, but here are the lyrics-
 
"Life In The Old Dog Yet"
In my time I've been a few places,
And I've many a story to tell.
Here I am still as strong
As I've been all along,
I'm not ready for heaven or hell.
There are people who do need reminding,

That I'm still the boss around here.
I still call every shot,
And I'll tell you what's what,
And what's not, do I make myself clear.

I'm not ready to roll over
I'm still, the daddy of them all,
I'm still the top banana,
They still answer when I call.
I'm older, yes, but I'm wiser,
And they better not forget,
I'm not ready to roll over
'Cos there's life in the old dog yet.

You can't put an old head on young shoulders
My advice is the best I can give
Let them make their mistakes;
Let them fight for their rights;
Let them learn how to love and to live.

I've only got the one daughter
,
Time she married a man of her own,
And the one I have planned
Has got plenty of land,
She'll be grand, and I'll stand all alone.

I'm not ready to roll over
I'm still the daddy of the all,
I'm still the top banana,
They still answer when I call.
I'm older, yes, but I'm wiser,
And they better not forget,
I'm not ready to roll over
'Cos there's life in the old dog yet.

(Disclaimer: Ignore that 2nd line of the 3rd stanza! We are not ready to push our daughter out of the nest at the tender age of 13.)
 

Monday, September 10, 2012

Camp Out 2012

It's "funny" how a group of friends comes together. How life has a way of bringing people together. How some of our BFFs drift out of our life while others stand the test of time. There are 4 ladies from our church who are in my inner circle by merit of the men we fell in love with and the timing of our birthdays. Although 3 of us immigrated from the same home state, I never met any of them until we ended up in the same community. We started out in an accountability group together, then celebrated 40th birthdays together, before deciding to pull our families into the fun by doing an annual Camp Out.
   We are an eclectic mix. Some of us are raising teenagers, while others only have preschoolers. Some of us like onions & hate mocha, while others of us hate onions but like all things mocha. We've withstood 1 separation (when 1 couple went into V.S.) in the past and are about to experience the pangs of another separation [sniffle] when another goes international in mission work). Some of us define camping as outdoor living while others hold the staunch view that camping can only be done in an air-conditioned cabin with all the conveniences of home. Some of us love adventure and some of us prefer safe. None of us has quite the same interests & giftings, tho' we share similar insecurities. But we all love the Lord. I believe that is the glue that holds us together.
 
Here is a peek at some events of our recent 2012 Camp out...
 
This is all but 2 of the boys in the group. There is quite a gap between our 2 teens and the rest of the boys in the group, but you often see them surrounded by the little guys like this...  
Good practice for being a positive role model!
 
JS fishing with some of the little guys...
...he also gave lots of 4-wheeler rides.
 
One of the men just happens to be JS & A's school teacher/principal this year.
This was JS's favorite activity of the weekend - shooting bow with his teacher.
 
We did some traditional camping food- like mountain pies.
I'm telling you, we had some professional pie makers & marshmallow toasters among the younger generation! You want a perfect toasted marshmallow, talk to T! 
 
The real unforgettable moment of the weekend was a hike.
Supposedly to the lake.
Some how it turned into an adventure few us were prepared for. There were life lessons gleaned and trust issues to explore. And beauty [ferns, moss, and unidentified fluffy white things waving on tree branches] that one would completely miss when sticking to the mown paths. For the record- we never got to the lake, but we could see it off in the distance.  
 
 
In honor of my brave friends, who follow their men into the wild unknown, with babies in tow, I've composed this poem based on the nursery rhyme "This is the House that Jack Built"-
This is the hike that we took.
This is the maiden all forlorn,
that followed the man all tattered & torn,
that went on a hike
to find the lake,
that required a debriefing
that took till 2 AM!  
This is the hike that we took.
 
You gals are great! Glad to have you in my life!

Monday, August 20, 2012

Of Weddings

   I really, really love weddings! There's just something magical about romance that never gets old. I will drag my man to virtually any wedding I am invited to. (Actually he's pretty good about attending without complaint.) Unfortunately, we have reached the ripe old age where we don't get invited to very many weddings. We're at that in-between stage where we're no longer peers of the bride & groom set, yet not quite old enough to make it onto the guest list by merit of being friends with the parents of the bride & groom.
   Beyond attending weddings, taking part in a couple's special day is even better, in my mind. I consider it an honor and love helping a bride make her fairy tale come true. [Am I the only one who thinks weddings are so much more elegant & lovely these days than when I was planning my wedding 21 years ago?] I only made it into the bridal party of one wedding, I'm no good at cake decorating or flower arranging, but I just might 'hang out my shingle' one of these days as a wedding coordinator.
   Last week I dedicated my entire week to helping with a wedding reception I was asked to coordinate. Even where it wasn't part of my job description, I managed to be underfoot & stick my nose into their business. What a delight to see the pieces all come together in a simple, vintage look!


Who knew you could do so much with Queen Anne's lace and newspaper?
With green apples and burlap? With re-purposed brush/twigs?
That green and black and grey really do look lovely together -at a festive occasion?

I don't have very many pictures of the reception because there were so many details to attend to while the event was in progress, but I loved it. I declare it worth every sore muscle and every ounce of stress. (Of course, I would be remiss to not give credit to the group of young people who did an outstanding job of serving the nearly 400 guests.)

Congratulations to the new Mr. & Mrs.!
Wish you weren't moving so far away... I think our fellowship over grilled steaks would be the Bomb! :)  

Monday, July 23, 2012

Short Story

The nephew -aka His Royal Cuteness- was here for the weekend.
Time went way too fast.
the End. 

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Fathers

My favorite photo of my dad & I.
I am who I am today because of this man.
I'm honored to call him Dad.

One of my favorite photos of the daddy of my children.
(Love, love how A is holding on to her ponytail so it doesn't blow away!)
It amazes me that the love of my life is a man much like my dad. 
So proud of the incredible job he is doing as a father.

Thanking God today for these men in my life!


Monday, June 11, 2012

Valley Forge

   This weekend was the annual Family Day with my family. We alternate between going to a cabin one year, with doing a day trip the next year. This was the year for a day trip and we toured Valley Forge, PA.
    We are getting to be a sizable family and were proclaimed by the matriarch as "harder to herd than a bunch of cats", but we basically stayed together and finished the tour on [the matriarch's] schedule. We had CDs to play in our vehicles as we took a self-guided tour of the national park, which helped us know what we were seeing so we could try to visualize what it was like to live there in the winter of 1777. (Except that it was a beautiful, warm summer day.)  
   George Washington's army of 12,000 lived in 2000 log huts like these replicas. As many as 12 men lived in each one. They were crude but at least provided a roof over their heads. One guide claimed they were actually quite comfortable in these -with a fire going.
   The men who spent the winter at Valley Forge suffered from hunger, cold, and disease which resulted in about 3,000 deaths. In addition, they were ill-equipped and lacked training when they arrived here.
  
   George Washington lived in a tent until the men were housed in log cabins, then rented this house where he wintered with his wife and staff. Sometimes as many as twenty people were living here, eating and sleeping wherever they could find a space. The smaller section on the left is the kitchen & bake oven.
Here is a picture of our family in front of the house where George Washington lived 235 years ago.
PA has some amazing, very old buildings.
(You can read more about how the Revolutionary War affected the Mennonites on my mom's blog.  Apparently there is a very long history of folks making a fuss over small issues and innocent by-standers getting caught in the crossfire.) 

   We had a picnic at the park part way through the tour and all congregated at my parent's house for a cookout afterwards. Once again there was an issue with lettuce, since it got accidentally left behind and we had to eat sandwiches without. It's a family joke.
   In spite of a disrupted-schedule-kind-of-day, the littlest member of the family was relatively cheerful. Love the hat!
   We didn't get to play with him near as much as we would've liked. Already looking forward to having him at our house next month.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Asperger Awareness

April is Autism Awareness Month. This is the 2012 version of my attempt to raise awareness of Asperger's Syndrome, the close relative of Autism. Asperger's is a part of our lives because God saw fit to design my eldest son with the disorder. It seems to have popped up out of nowhere as there is no family history of it.
Asperger's is not 'new'. It has been around for a long time and was identified in the early 70s. It hasn't been "promoted" as widely as some of the other disorders, so many people have never heard of it. 
I feel passionate about educating the people around us about it because knowledge is power. Being misunderstood is  painful. I do not like pain. It is those who have been willing to be educated about the disorder -and have an open mind that such things even exist (is more than an excuse for bad behavior or poor parenting made up by medical doctors)- that have extended grace to our family on this unwanted journey.

One of the universal thorn-in-the-flesh issues for those of us touched by Aspergers is the assumption that because a kid looks normal he/she is normal and therefore should act normal. (Whatever "normal" is.) Age does not improve this misconception, it only changes the ways of being misunderstood. Recently I was reminded of this by an experience in town. I was shopping at a store that had a large item for sale. A man purchased one of these said items and requested help loading it into his vehicle. There were only 2 female employees working at said store at the time. The one who helped with the loading came back in the store provoked that a man in the next vehicle watched without offering to help. The 2 co-workers commiserated with each other about society going south these days. OK, that is my son you're griping about. While he is physically healthy and certainly capable of helping manhandle a large box into a small car, it would never occur to him to offer to help total strangers. Because he lacks the "normal" social skills, he commits numerous social blunders and has learned one lesson over the years- mind your own business. It's less painful than trying to be helpful, only to get yelled at for some infraction of rules you can't comprehend. He is a product of his environment.
And so are we as his family. I was reminded of this last week when I over-reacted to a situation out of fear. Fear of being embarrassed. Fear of being criticised. Again.  

This is our life. We are often judged harshly by the uninformed. Please, folks, make this your mantra- always give the benefit of the doubt! Or perhaps There is more than meets the eye.

One of the challenges of our life is that progress comes very slowly. I look back at our life a year ago and nothing has changed. I look back 8 years and I see progress. For example, other projects pushed my hobby of scrapbooking to the back burner and I have fallen behind by that far. When I recently pulled out 2004 pictures to scrapbook, I no longer remember details so I dug out my journals. Reading journal entries from that stage of our life is like reliving a nightmare. Thank God we have progressed beyond those Dark Ages!
It's been a long year in terms of seeking employment for our son. We explored possibilities on our own, we turned to the government for help and did the whole job coaching thing (we are grateful for the assistance received), we did the wait & pray thing... Nothing. We wrestle with resentment that jobs just seems to fall in everyone else's lap. Someone was recently helping brainstorm possibilities; it was actually encouraging instead of discouraging because everything she could throw at me we had already explored. Happy sigh. Affirmation that we haven't been sitting on our haunches, doing nothing; we have tried. A few months ago I read statistics that 30% of 'Aspies' cannot hold down a job for any length of time and 60% never achieve living independently. OK, so we're in good company. But in the Mennonite circles having an unemployed 18 year old hardly feels that way. It's lonely here.
As we speak, there is light at the end of the tunnel- a job possibility. We're keeping our fingers crossed.

Maybe someday I'll get around to making one of those infamous 10 Things You Should Never Say lists, but for now here is one thing you shouldn't say to the parents of an Aspie- He/she is really smart. [Inflect a hint of surprise in your tone.] "Really? I had no idea!" [Sorry, just a bit of sarcasm there. I can't do that at home because my Aspie doesn't get it- he takes everything literal.] Just because my son is socially clumsy doesn't mean he's stupid. Forgive me if I smack you upside the head, but that one gets me every time. And believe me, I hear it more often than you'd think. It's a hallmark of Asperger's that these folks have "special interests" and are experts on those subjects. In our house it just happens to be flying/airplanes/space. We -the family- are intimately acquainted with TMI [too much information] - we live with someone who regularly keeps talking long after we're finished listening, so no one knows better than we how smart this Aspie really is. We love him and put up with it because it's not often he comes out on top. He may be many things, but dumb is not one of them. And we're proud of him for that.

If you're interested in learning more about Aspergers, we recommend: A Mile in His Shoes DVD, books or audios by John Elder Robison- Be Different: Adventures of a Free-Range Aspergian OR Look Me in the Eye, novel House Rules by Jodi Picoult. All of these are available through my local library and probably are through yours, too.

I recently discovered a song with great lyrics- "The Half" by Mark Harris, that encourage me on this journey. You can listen to it here.
I look back on a thousand roads I wandered down.
And just as many dreams I've chased but I never found.
From where I stand I see the way,
You held my heart.
The times You closed the door,
And left the light on in the dark.

For every broken path,
And for every storm held back,
I shake my head in wonder.
But I don't know the half,
Of what You have for me.
What Your holding back,
That You don't let me see.
You give me everything I need,
And more than I can ask.
And I can't help but but be amazed,
And I don't even know the half.
I don't even know the half.

The God who whispered life in an empty space,
He's prepared for us an even better place.
I hear about the mansions and the golden streets,
But I cannot imagine all that heaven holds for me.
Even when I dream, its still beyond my grasp,
to try and comprehend it.

But I don't know the half,
Of what You have for me.
What Your holding back,
That You don't let me see.
You give me everything I need
And more than I can ask.
And I can't help but but be amazed,
That I don't even know the half.
I don't even know the half.

You cover me with wings of grace,
Hold me in Your sweet embrace.
When it comes to who You are,
I know its just a taste.
But I don't know the half,
Of what You have for me.
What Your holding back,
That You don't let me see.
You give me everything I need
And more than I can ask.
And I can't help but but be amazed,
I can't help but but be amazed,
And I don't even know the half.
I don't even know the half.
 



 

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

April Events

We have been busy with many things that fall into the "everyday routine" category, but one activity we took part in this month is anything but everyday routine- the 50th anniversary celebration of parents. Moments like this cause us to pause & reflect what a blessing it is to have both sets of parents still with us, as well as a heritage of long-lasting marriages. We are also fortunate to have family with whom we can get along and work together to pull off such a large event. We had a good turn-out -several hundred guests. As you can see from the photo, it was a unique 50th anniversary party because the decor conspicuously lacked the usual gold theme. Each to their own.

Yesterday I took the day off to tag along on A's state history class trip. This is my last scholar to take the class, thus my last chance to go. (I did go along when JR took that class in 7th grade but it was quite a memorable trip -in an unpleasant way- due to sickness, so I wanted to go when I could get more out of it.)
We sat in on a portion of the day's Supreme Court session, toured the Statehouse, sat through a House of Representatives session, met our Representative and had our photo taken with him, observed a brief bit of a Senate session, and rode an elevator to the 40th floor of a skyscraper for a view of the capitol. Among other things, we stood where the late President Lincoln lay in-state for 8 hours as part of his funeral procession in 1865. An enjoyable, informative day!  
Here is A (on the far left) with her classmates & the teacher of this class (center).

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Celebrating Spring

The first day of spring! After winter, it's always so lovely to see things bursting into bloom. I have a habit of snapping pictures every year, trying to capture what can only be truly experienced with all 5 senses. Last week I was resisting the urge to take yet another batch of flower photos; but this week I threw common sense to the wind and decided the early date is sufficient reason to take pictures of it all.  After all, when have I ever had so many blooming things on the first day of spring?!
 
tulip,    hyacinth,    hydrangea
peony sprouts,    apricot blossom

is spring complete without dandelions?   a promise of lilacs to come
daffodil,    muddy shoes- another spring staple

In the evening I attended a Spring Celebration with a group of folks from our church. It was awesome! We went early, expecting to wait in line to get in. To my surprise, there was no line and the auditorium did not get full. It's a mystery to me why more folks didn't take advantage of this delightful free event.
 There was prelude music by these young ladies/sisters... 
Followed by another singing group/family, of which our favorite was their rendition of
"The Farmer Feeds Them All".

And the real treat of the evening was keynote speaker Philip Yancey.
He spoke on "Seasons of Soul". You can read a similar synopsis here.
Inspiring words of truth and grace. Always better 'in person'.
Being the offspring of an author, I'm generally not given to "author-worship" but I did acquire an autograph for my scrapbook. :)
I don't remember when I've had a lovelier first day of spring. Happy spring, everyone!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Ramblings

I got a delicious iced coffee recipe from a friend but made the mistake of drinking a cup too late in the day Sunday evening. I was wired past 3AM! Them eyes just kept a poppin' open and my brain refused to shut down. During that time I thought up a truly inspired blog post, which I cannot remember a word of now- not even the subject matter.
So my blog sits dormant. What can one write about when one is spending days slogging through endless cooking, cleaning, laundry, bookwork and such like? Hosting 25 guests on Sunday was a gesture of guilt for not having company more often and 'host family' is a wonderful system for pushing us to get it done? I added spring cleaning to my schedule today? My crocuses are blooming? [Hooray for spring!] After 3 years of cookbooking, I am finally scrapbooking our regular photos again- and 2004 seems like an eternity ago? We tried spinach smoothies [JS got the recipe from his biology teacher] and it's really not as disgusting as it sounds, albeit there is a certain "healthy" flavor to it. Nope, no one is interested in that stuff. I was raised on conventional wisdom like "When you don't have anything to say, don't say anything" hence a dormant blog.      

Friday, January 27, 2012

Our 1st Cruise

Warning: this is a very long post. Some of the stuff is in answer to questions we have been getting or by request of friends wanting details.
A week ago we were FL bound to experience our first cruise. At that time we didn't know if it would turn out to be the stupidest decision of our life or one of the better choices. Now we know- and the verdict is we loved cruising!

This story starts back in late October-early November. Our 20th anniversary was coming up and we were scratching for an idea of where to celebrate. We have this thing going where each year we try to top the year before, which naturally is getting harder to do. A big number like 20 felt like it should be something extra memorable. None of the ideas we thought of struck us as being "right". We threw out a request for suggestions on FaceBook and some of you obliged. The suggestion of a cruise caused us to revisit that idea. It was something we've wanted to try, but we really didn't want to go alone the first time. (We don't "get out" much and feared making total fools of ourselves.) So we pitched the idea to Hillcrest friends of ours who have cruised before. Long story short- we almost went to the Smokies in November, but we got their email just in time that they were actually considering the cruise idea! It was too short notice for November and then it's the holidays, so we agreed on January. We selected the Bahamas as a destination. And the rest is history.

Right from the start we were so grateful for friends to spare us from making stupid mistakes. As a general rule, you get what you pay for. Therefore, on my own, I would have booked a stateroom in the mid-price range. There are those people who will tell you to spend the extra for a suite or at least ocean-view. We booked an interior stateroom - the cheapest category available, and here's why it turned out to be a great choice for us: we were advised that the lower you are in the ship the more stable it is [less motion if the ocean is rough]; we were all the way down on Deck 3 mid-ship and felt very little motion... with an interior room it stayed dark and we could sleep in as long as we wanted (morning persons won't get this one!)... if you get claustrophobic in small spaces, an interior stateroom probably wouldn't be for you, but it was as roomy as our camper, so we didn't mind the compact facilities at all. Being from thrifty German stock, we would choose interior stateroom again.

We were very concerned about getting seasick. I get carsick fairly easy and R has a history of "feeding the fish" on small boats. Those who know us well probably are familiar with my story of extreme carsickness en route to another anniversary get-away, so trust me when I say nothing kills the romance like feeling "green". I took ginger for about a week before the trip and we both wore wrist bands beginning the evening before we left. I kept thinking "how bad can it get? The Bahamas really aren't that far from FL so we're not spending much time at sea. It's a huge ship- surely it just glides along" But it seems everyone has a horror story to tell- if not their personal experience, they know someone who had a bad experience, and delight in sharing the misery, which had a way of eroding my confidence. Thank God we had smooth sailing! We removed our wristbands the first morning and never needed to put them back on.

In order to take a long weekend off, R needed to haul 2 WI loads last week. During the few hours he was home between loads, I took JS to take his driving test and get his license. As a result, we were home at the same time and awake all of 1 hour. If ever we needed a vacation together...! R & I were both awake at 1:30AM [Friday 20th], too excited to sleep, so we headed to the airport at 2AM. Fortunately we had clear roads and arrived in plenty of time. Funny how flights work these days- the cheapest tickets routed us north on a small plane before heading south on a nonstop flight to FL. It was a bitter 10* and the plane had to be de-iced up north. Orlando was a balmy 70*. We got a rental car for the drive to Port Canaveral, where their shuttle took us to the pier.   

With the busy-ness of the holidays, getting passports slipped through the cracks. Till we thought of it, it was questionable whether passports would arrive in time. We were taking what is called a closed-loop cruise (beginning & ending in the US) so passports were not required. We called the cruise line just to make sure we won't have any problems getting on/off the ship in the Bahamas and were assured "no problem". However, there was one minor detail that no one mentioned. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that a married lady's birth certificate with have her maiden name and her driver's license will have her married name, so why didn't anyone mention that a marriage license will be required to bridge the gap? When we were told at the check-in counter that R is being booked through but I cannot board without a marriage license, well, to say our hearts sank would be an understatement. I was escorted to a waiting area and handed a paper outlining my options. Not having a phone with internet access seriously limited my options. (Our friends had a phone with access but had already boarded and were not allowed back into the area where we were.) Our only hope was reaching JR at home and having him fax the necessary document. We were in good company- there were quite a few couples facing the same dilemma. I called home and walked JR through finding the document and how to run the fax machine- something he had never done before. The first fax was a strike-out but helped him figure out the correct place to put the paper. Interesting trying to coach someone when you can't see what is happening on the other end. The 2nd fax was also a strike-out because it was the invoice for purchasing our marriage license. The stress level notches up. I knew where our marriage certificate was and said a prayer that would be acceptable. All things considered, the cruise staff had the process streamlined and called me to the counter immediately when the fax came through. The lady looked at it, commented "That looks different" (I didn't bother to point out it was a marriage certificate, not license), then shrugged and proceeded to book me through. Thank you, Jesus! If I could have reached JR at that moment I would have hugged him for saving the day! Here we are in all our post-stress glory... thrilled to finally be on board. "We, us, the 2 of us, both of us, together" as my family would say.  
            
This is a reception area just inside the ship. Someone asked me what is was like walking onto a huge ship like that. To be truthful, I don't remember much of it; I was still trying to get my bearings together from the near disaster of being left behind. I would have to say comparable to walking down the jet way onto a plane, an enclosed hallway, I think.

We only had time to unpack before the mandatory Muster Drill. I was amazed at the cruise line's ability to organize and move more than 2000 people in an orderly fashion. I was also amazed at the way a few guests were not paying an attention to instructions. It's those kind of people who cause mass confusion in a disaster. If you're not familiar with a muster drill it was a dry run for what we needed to do if there was a problem, such as a sinking ship. Speaking of which, we were asked several times if we're sure we want to cruise right after the Italy cruise sinking, but my opinion is that there is no safer time than right after a disaster.

We left Port Canaveral around 4PM. We were up on Deck 11 to watch the departure. A funny feeling- we didn't even realize we were moving until all at once we saw the land was "moving".
Once we moved out into the open water- the true test of seasickness- my stomach felt fine but I was dizzy. We decided it was lack of sleep. We were signed up for late dining at 8:30. My chilled strawberry soup, chicken marsala and tiramisu were excellent, but I was so exhausted I could hardly wait for the meal to be over so I could sleep. After all I had only been up for 21.5 hours.

While we cruised along at 17 knots all night (for everyone who has been asking- that's 19.567mph), I slept soundly and woke up feeling human again. We were wowed by the breakfast buffet in the Windjammer; so much food and it's all included in the price. Well, almost all of it. Again we were thankful for friends to answer our questions about what's included and what isn't. No $5 glasses of fresh squeezed orange juice for us when the regular variety is free!
We docked a little before noon Saturday in Nassau. We had spotted this sign on the wharf from the ship so we headed there first enroute to the beach. Shortly after we took this picture it started to rain. It didn't appear like it would blow over any time soon so we got back on the ship.
Rain is conducive to naps. Eating too much is conducive to walking laps around the promenade deck. Later in the day when the rain let up, R & I ventured back into Nassau to do some shopping. I had my heart set on a conch shell. We walked & walked until we found a street vendor selling some for a reasonable price and appeared to be someone trying to earn an honest living to support his family.  We also got teeshirts from the Straw Market, but I didn't care for shopping there because it seemed they didn't want to you to touch anything unless you were buying but their stuff was piled in their booths to where you couldn't see it properly without picking it up.
Great photo opp walking back to the ship after dark!
Saturday evening was formal night. An evening to get all dressed up and pretend to be elegant. If ever there was a time it's interesting to watch people... Seriously, some of the shoes!! What are they thinking?! Can we say chiropractor bills, folks?
On this evening there were photographers set up at various places to take our formal portraits. No charge, no obligation to buy. So, of course, we went around to them all. Surely out of all those poses we'd find one good one. Here we are dining afterwards with our friends D & R.       
I had the pineapple & papaya soup, followed by a seafood ravioli dish. R had oxtail soup for his appetizer and duck for his main dish. For dessert it was strawberry cheesecake and chocolate mocha mousse. The mousse was interesting- a waitress made a hole in it with my spoon then poured cappuccino in the hole until the whole thing started to float up out of the ramekin. Delicious!
After we ate, we went to the Love & Marriage game show in the theater. It was hilarous! They picked out a newlywed couple on their honeymoon, the longest married couple in the room (45 years), and a couple married 7 years to be the contestants. The wives were sent out while the husbands were asked 3 questions, then the wives came back and were asked the same questions to see if they'd answer the same, then the husbands went out and the process was repeated. The honeymooning couple won. We stayed to watch the next show which was a juggler; pretty amazing- knives and all.

Till that show was over, the midnight buffet was in process. This is only 1 table of many. There were 3 ice sculptures. I have more pictures of food; you'll have to visit us and see my scrapbook to see them. I only ate a strawberry; Richard sampled a few things. We soon left because the dance music on that deck was so loud. When we got to our room, the stateroom attendant had a towel folded into a swan on our bed. Awesome.  

We left Nassau around midnight and arrived in CocoCay Sunday morning. CocoCay is Royal Carribean's private island. The ship was anchored in deeper water and we had to ride these tender boats to get to/from the island. If you can see the small dark spot near the center of the ship just above the water- that is where we went in & out via gangplank.   
The weather was as gorgeous on Sunday as it was blah on Saturday. Sunny and 80*. What's not to like about that in January?! As I looked at this beautiful scene, I had to wonder how some people can not believe in a Creator.

R tried snorkeling here -his 1st time. The water was a bit cool. There was a BBQ lunch on the island for us; the meat wasn't as tender as we prefer, but we ladies enjoyed sampling the rum cake. (I thought it tasted like the cake in date pudding.) For the record- that was the only taste of liquer we had on the whole trip, unlike some other guests.

When we got back to the ship the formal portraits were on display. So many to pick from! You know how it is- I like me on this one, him on that one, and this background. Because of the price we only purchased 1 of us with our friends and another of us alone. When we were making our purchase, the photographer asked if I want a folio to put them in. I said no because I'll be putting them in a scrapbook, to which he responded "Ahh, scrapbook!" I told Richard "Uh, oh, I think I just said the magic word." He had a Carribean Cruise scrapbook/album package deal -actually for a reasonable price. I don't often "bite" for those offers but I did this time. I can't wait to scrapbook these pictures!

Sunday evening I had raspberry pineapple soup (I know, another cold fruit soup) and also spinach dip for appetizer, then a shrimp and mahi-mahi platter; Richard tried pumpkin soup, and had NY strip steak. For dessert- key lime pie and chocolate sandwich cake. Awesome, as usual. There was a chef's parade at the end of our meal but when we were supposed to dance the macarena with the waiters we didn't have a clue. Didn't even try.

We were back in Port Canaveral by 7AM Monday. Only enough time to eat that wonderful buffet breakfast one last time and pack before our 8AM disembarking time.
Like virtually everyone else on a short cruise, we wanted to carry our own luggage off and the line stretched across 3 decks. Fortunately for us, our friends got in line early and we could jump in with them. Again it was amazing how the staff kept everything organized and the line moving (nothing like Mennonite viewings/calling hours!) One last time to get our SeaPass scanned. A quick trip through customs and we were off on the shuttle to pick up a rental car. 

Our 2nd flight was delayed an hour. I don't enjoy turbulance in any aircraft, but bouncing around in a little one is not my cup of tea. Glad to be safely back on solid ground. It was in the 40s when we got back, but that still feels cold. We got to our house at 7:30PM. Our children managed just fine at home alone, but I think they were ready to have us back.

In summary-- 1. it went by too fast. 2. I could handle having a staff at home to pick up after us 3 a day and cook for us 24/7; we had fabulous service. 3. We definitely want to go again. Before our 40th anniversary.    
     

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

J's 16th Birthday

Our 2nd son turned 16 on January 2nd. With his birthday coming on the heels of the holidays, it sometimes doesn't get the hoopla that summer birthdays get. But this year we spread the celebration out over several days. The Miller aunts supplied a cake at our New Years Eve gathering with family.


I ordered this cake for him and served it at school for his party with the High School.  
 

 Take a look at his birthday gifts- I bet you can't guess what his hobby/interest is.
Even the book from grandma fit the theme.

The weather didn't cooperate to go snowboarding on his birthday, so we went bowling instead. His first time bowling and he won the last game. He also invited a couple guys to go with him one evening for some virtual bow hunting at the sporting goods store.

Of course, the big deal about turning 16 in our state is because you can graduate from a driver's permit to a driver's license. He successfully passed his road test yesterday. I was so nervous for him that I had a stomachache, but he passed with a near perfect score. Sigh of relief, knowing I have 4 years before I have to go through that again. Happy sigh this morning as I watched my 2 scholars head off to school by themselves for the first time. What's not to like about one's children growing up and becoming independent? (Sorry, I'm just not one of those wistful "freeze time" mothers.)